People tend not to be aware of the superpowers they have. Powers vary from one person to another. But, the capacity to say No when necessary is something which every individual is capable of. Merely saying, people don’t use this power to its full potential.
Countless people who walked the earth that became the definition of ‘success’ credit their accomplishments to the things they have not done in contrast to the things they have. Warren Buffet, the investment mogul, repeats the same:
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”
Venture Capitalist have their work surrounding the following principal. VC’s time is mostly spent on rejecting aspiring founders – strategizing the best match for their money. Everything is about focus and setting priorities.
No one is so capable of doing everything they desire. But guess what? Everyone is capable of doing a few things with excellence. Steve Jobs agreed with the same during the 1997 Developer Conference. Here’s what he said:
“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I’m actually as proud of the things we haven’t done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.”
The 7 things
- Successful people say No to opportunities that don’t reflect their values and life’s mission. They are excited to work towards a thing and so are fully dedicated towards that one thing. Without a no, that’s impossible.
- Well, remember when I said a person is not capable of doing everything they desire? Successful people understand this and outsource the work to people who are best at it. Outsourcing is a way they utilise to work on the things they want to. A vital ‘NO’ to tasks they don’t want to do. They value their time and passion over money. Why else do you think that excellent companies have specialised positions?
- Successful people say No to being unproductive. They don’t work every hour of the day, but the hour they work is productive. The culture of working long hours every day doesn’t excite them because they’re aware health is the ultimate wealth. If they can’t take care of themselves, no one will.
- Have you ever found an accomplished person carrying out people-pleasing practices? You won’t; successful people are interested in giving critical feedback and not accommodating to other people’s wishes and desire.
- Successful people are critical of the people around them. They say No to spending time with unmotivated, uninspiring people who are present to deem other people. They have a small group, but everyone in the group shares the same purpose and vision. That’s a group I want to be a part of!
- It goes without saying they are very critical of their time and they will say No to giving their steering of life to some another individual. Mr. Buffet affirms this with the quote “You’ve gotta keep control of your time and you can’t unless you say no. You can’t let people set your agenda in life.”
- Ever wandered around a networking event and found yourself surrounded with people who are there to shove the business card into your hand and then disappear? That’s a no brainer for these successful people. They never attend these, and they never need to because all they focus on building long-lasting relationships.
I believe you have understood the importance to say No. There’s more to a successful life. One of that is building meaningful relationships. You might find it hard to build relationships; it’s natural at first. You can work around and try different ways or read the following blog, which uncovers the time tested strategy to building a meaningful relationship. The strategy worked so well for the founder of Eloqua that he was able to sell his company 200 percent of it’s estimated market value. Read the strategy here.