Why overstimulation sucks your happiness?

Published 22.02.2021

Author Hrittik Roy

It’s small-time I have been here on this planet, and a trait is occurring for the last few years. I am not so joyful I used to be. It’s hard to pinpoint some reasons, but when a thing bothers you every day and keeps you awake with heartache, it must become your priority to investigate the core reasons.

Now I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason, and if you’re not able to see the reason, you might be naïve in front of the grand scale of the universe.

I have seen the same feelings reappear, and it’s just too much now to allow them to control my well being. This post goes to be an extract from my diary. It would focus on why the childhood normal is disrupted with an imaginary and over-stimulated normal and how to take back control.

The Normal

If you’d remember extracts from your childhood, you might remember a jolly and excited you. But we tend to wash away unnecessary details like you forget your mom bashing you because you don’t like vegetables.

overstimulation childhood
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It was expected and everyday stuff, but I remember myself treating my brain like a supercomputer and finding ways to escape the loop of eating veggies every day. So now you know there was some bad and some good. But as we grew, we forget the bad due to happiness leaves a more profound mark. Alongside these struggle moments, we forgot all these lessons we practised to normalize life, and our problem lies there.

The overstimulation problem

Overstimulation by other people’s normal

I don’t know how to put this, but we somewhat leave in an over stimulated environment where the normal is considered fake positive toxicity. A person can’t possibly be positive all day, and the thought we must stay positive is, in its core, harmful.

Remember crying in childhood for petty things and then realizing it wasn’t worth so much chaos?

Overstimulation by imaginative desires

We tend to stay a life that is not now and a constructive or destructive imagination of how things must turn out in the future, like exercising the control we have in our dreams to the real-world scenario.

Sometimes it’s good to clarify what you want in your life, but one of the other problems we humans face is the inability to let go past. I have seen people not saying sorry and sorting things out because they keep on focusing on what bad they did and what they shouldn’t have done in the first place.

Does that not suck? Indeed it does, and if I come honest, I have even done that sometime in the past.

Our childhood was constrained, and we all were amused by things happening in life. I can say we were a bit action-oriented back then.

Overstimulation by an inability to sit in a room empty

Is Idle mind devil’s workshop? No and having an earphone plugged in your ears sucks more. Life is better when you’re inclined towards a thing and distraction is not your friend. A bit of less media consumption would do you more good than bad.

“All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone”

– Blaise Pascal

It’s a common scenario that if you’re empty, you would get your device into your hands and open any social media, but that’s harmful. It’s standard practice with people we consider successful in having time slots for social media and time slots to have nothing on their mind for some ‘me-time’ and some time to reflect on themselves.

The Solution

I would be very direct with the solutions and give them to you in points to examine what’s best for you.

Cut off unnecessary stimulation by reducing media intake

If this is something you hear again after skimming through hundreds of posts, I won’t be the judge of how important this is. Social media is a rabbit hole of sensations, judgements and content which doesn’t resonate with you.

You might have seen this if you’re all day browsing through memes. The dopamine level in you is comparatively high, and now when doing regular things, you won’t be motivated enough to complete them until a deadline is around the corners.

Dopamine in such high quantities is not what it was supposed to be. This is unhealthy dopamine that damages your emotions and also keeps you high. Craving attention is a cheap drug, and you must avoid it in every situation.

Remember childhood happiness was dictated by connecting with people you haven’t met or if you achieved something. It wasn’t dictated by some pixels on your screen. You weren’t surrounded by overstimulation!

Cut off daydreaming and adopt an action-based approach

Thinking you are a millionaire in your dreams is cool, but what’s cooler, you know? Being one in real life.

The imagination-based approach is not something you must fall into and try seeing things happening now to plan things to get the results you want.

Don’t fall into the rabbit hole of changing things that already happened, and try rectifying stuff so you can get the results you want with actions you need to take.

A journal can be your best friend

Self-reflection is critical to finding things that you must improve on and something that would need your immediate attention. Meditation with self-reflection helps you to clear your thoughts and be a more action-oriented person.

overstimulation journaling
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A result of self-reflection is that I am writing this blog with the solution I have found for the problems I was facing.

So how do you self-reflect?

Cut off distraction and then empty your mind. Now question what’s and why’s of things you have done and how could you improve them by keeping in mind the results you want. This, if done daily, would give you an edge over your mind and help you think well. Learn more about journaling ideas here!

Sometimes go for a walk alone without your earphones on and see how many ideas pop up in your mind and would relax you from overstimulation.

Final Thoughts

Learning the solution is not hard but practicing it is. You know, it must be your habit and mentality if you want to cope out with these waves in your day-to-day life. I have given you the solution, and the rest 50% is job is upon you.

If you’d like to read a blog on how to stop take things personally. Read it here!

Happy Living!

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